Now this is a touchy topic is a pretty weird one for me to be diving into. I know I share a lot but there are some things you just want to keep to yourself. Intimacy is such an important competent of marriage.
No I don't mean sex. Most women will tell you intimacy is about more than sex. Intimacy in a relationship is defined as
Interpersonal relationship that involves physical and/or emotional intimacy. There is physical intimacy which is characterized by friendship, platonic love, romantic love, or sexual activity. Then there is emotional intimacy which involves a perception of closeness to another that allows sharing of personal feelings, accompanied by expectations of understanding, affirmation, and demonstration of caring. Humans have a general desire to belong and to love.
It is so easy for us as women to say I'm too tired, stressed, or upset to have sex. Instead of recognizing the need of our husband to be intimate. I will admit I have been guilty of this plenty of times. But this scripture gave me a new insight of martial intimacy that I did not expect to gain from the Bible. The Bible just never cease to amaze me, maybe it's just me but I didn't imagine I'd be getting intimacy advice from the Bible.
1 Corinthians 7:2
“Each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. ”— ESV
Recommended Reading 1 Corinthians 7:1-16
According to 1 Corinthians, once we are married our body belongs to our spouse. We are to share our body only with our spouse. As a married couple we must make an effort to fulfill our spouses intimacy needs. Meeting one another intimacy needs helps prevent the possibility of sexual immorality.
How it Applies to our Life?
Intimacy is an Important parts of Marriage
Their is a human need and desire for intimacy. As a part of any healthy relationship each spouse must seek to fulfill the needs of their partner. Making intimacy a priority within our marriage will keep us from being tempted by Satan to act immorally.
Our Body belongs to our Spouse
In marriage we surrender our body to our spouses and fulfill their needs. Our body is no longer an organism simply meant to fulfill our needs but it is also an important part of fulfill our partners needs.
Don't Deprive your Spouse of Intimacy
As women society teaches us to use sex as a weapon. Women are told to hold out until they get want they want. But the Bible says only withhold sex if it is to fast and connect to the Lord. When we withhold sex from our spouse we put ourselves at risk to Satan temptation.
What can we learn about being a wife from this scripture?
- Be a dutiful wife shower your husband with love giving him plenty of intimacy and affection.
- As his wife be sure to initiate. Showing you desire your spouse is just as important as the physical act itself.
- Never withhold sex because your angry, upset, or trying to teach him a lesson. Use your words and cherish your husbands needs.
A Prayer for the women who desires to be a Dutiful Wife
Dear Heavenly Father,
Give me the energy and desire to fulfill our martial need for intimacy. Lord help me to say yes even in the moments when I just want to say no out of habit. Allow me to fulfill my husband intimacy needs and my husband to fulfill my needs. Keep our marriage bond together in love, friendship, and intimacy. In Jesus name we pray, Amen.